Should You Try To Get Your Ex Back?

When you experience a breakup, it is common to want to get back together with your ex.  Is this a good idea, though?  There is no easy answer to that question.  Generally, there are positives as well as negatives when weighing in on whether or not you should try to get an ex back.

Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?

First you should examine the reasons you want to get back together.  While this isn’t necessarily the most important question, it definitely needs to be answered.  Being lonely is not a healthy reason to rekindle a romance that failed the first go ‘round.  To be sure that loneliness isn’t the culprit of your feelings you should spend time with friends, get out and go on an adventure, try something new and then if you still genuinely miss your ex you can decide to pursue them.

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Now you need to examine why you two ever broke up in the first place.  This is a much more important question than the first one and the answer is a major factor in whether or not you should try to get back together.  Was your breakup a heat of the moment kind of thing, or were there differences that just couldn’t be worked through?  Heat of the moment decisions are often regrettable and can be remedied.  Cheating, abuse or dishonesty are things that may never change and you have to address your ability or willingness to tolerate them.

Finally you have to ask if anything important to the breakup of relationship has changed.  This is a bit harder to answer and will require open communication between you and your previous partner.  If there was discord that led to the demise of your romance, you need to examine whether or not these flaws have been addressed and improved upon.

Make a Well-Informed Decision

Don’t get too caught up in the excitement of the opportunity to take your ex back and get yourself back into a situation that might end badly all over again.  Take the time to sit down together as well as on your own and examine your motives as well as theirs.

As strange or difficult as it may seem-you need to detach your emotions from this decision. Instead, try to make a rational judgment about what is best for you in the long run.  Calmly look at the positives and negatives of whether or not you should try to get your ex back.

Life is short and best lived when happy.  You deserve to be happy.  Whether or not you should take your ex back is a decision you have to make on your own, and you shouldn’t do it on the spur of the moment.  Avoid being pressured to make up your mind too quickly, take your time and come to the decision that works best for you.

If you do decide to get back together, don’t rush back into things the way you left off; there is a reason you broke up, remember.  Take the time to date each other again and rediscover all the little things that made you fall for one another all over again.